Table manners - It's the little differences

After watching a Chinese TV show where a few boys tried to compete with each other who best knew Western table manners I realised that technically in the West things are awefully complicated when it comes to eating. There are rules about which set of cutlery to use for which dish, exactly how to hold the cutlery, where to put the napkin, etc. This even differs between different Western countries (e.g. in Italy you can tug the napkin in your collar but in Germany that's a no-no).
In China, on the other hand, all this is more relaxed and I got the impression the focus is more on the eating and enjoying the food rather than how you go about this. It seems in more up-market restaurants it's perfectly OK to spit (or at least deposit) the bones on the table, to burp (or at least belch) contently when you've finished eating or slurp your soup directly from the bowl. You're allowed to bend over the table and bring your face level with your food for convenience. So, the result of this is that when I come home from Asia my family note that I have picked up a multitude of bad habits. But as for me, I feel a lot more at home and relaxed going out for food here.